When we experience loss or trauma, we don’t forget. And it’s good to keep our traumas, our dark nights of the soul, our griefs and losses in mind.  We can learn from them. Even when you’re bursting forth with growth, you should always remember and acknowledge it can all be whisked away in a moment. You can die any second, so be thankful – for life and death. You may have another dark night of the soul, another loss, another little death coming, but it will just be another step back from which you will recover and live to fight again. Even your “big death” is just your entrance into a new life, or your going back into the Great Life, so there is nothing to fear!

It is true this anticipation of the negative can be taken to an unhealthy extreme, however, as in the case of anxiety. We project past traumas into the future: since bad things happened in the past, they are bound to happen again. This can lead to an anxious, unhappy and hopeless existence. You cannot even enjoy what is in front of you because something bad is going to happen. The other shoe is going to drop.